Single and Loving It

We’ve all been there at some point or the other. Single.
And hopefully we have all been at a point in our lives where we loved it. Whether or not being Single and Loving it came at the same time is a different story. Easier said than done right?

What does it mean anyway to be single and loving it?

It really just means being okay with who you are. Taking the time to find out who you are and what you want (in life, goals, and values) will help you to find a mate that will be compatible with you and your goals. The Bible says that you were fearfully and wonderfully made in the image of God (Psalm 139:14), born with a purpose. The Bible actually gives us guidelines to follow while single. It says that when single, our only concern should be how to please God (1 Corinthians 7:32) and that includes being active in your church, volunteering, using your time in a way that is pleasing to God.
Some of us are so involved in finding the one that we forget that we have not yet even found ourselves. Do all the things you would do with your mate, with yourself for a change. Spending time trying to figure out your needs, your goals, what are your values (aside from the ones ‘given’ to you by your parents). Do they align with the ones your parents have? Or do you value different things and want different things? Dating yourself for a while; candle lit dinner, going to watch a movie, and buying yourself flowers or that cologne you would want your partner to buy you. Why wait? You deserve it! And you certainly don’t have to wait for someone to come along and purchase them for you to show you that you are worth it.

Different ways to figure out who you are:

• Read the Bible – Its full of information about your purpose
• Google “Christian Who am I?” and “Self Improvement” worksheets
• Journaling
• Being honest with yourself about the things you like about you and the things you can
work on
• Seeing a therapist/church counselor to help guide you on this journey to self discovery

Amongst many other things.

Taking the time to really put effort into self reflection can be difficult, nevertheless it is very rewarding. When you know who you are, someone can’t tell you who to be, how to act and what type of fairytale they want to live through you. It’s worth it. You are worth it! Start believing it! You don’t need to be with a man/woman to be happy! You just have to be you.

LU

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